Men who do not have (Gheera) protective jealousy over their wives, sisters & daughters are Dayyooths & prohibited from jannah
Sisters, when your flouncing about feeling so free and happy and 'liberated' because your husbands allow you to leave the house or mix with non mahram men or put your pictures up on facebook looking dolled up with a glossy pout and seductive eyes and an improper hijab which you try to convince your self is 'fine' because its loose or that merely covering your hair with a scarf is sufficient then ask your self this......
Does your husband not have protective jealousy over you? Does he not mind showing you or letting you talk to his friends and non mehram relatives? Does he not mind you leaving your house without covering properly or having a face full of makeup? Does he not mind that thousands of other men can see your photos on social networking sites such as facebook and the like? If not then there is a huge problem with his imaan as the obligation of hijab isnt just on your head, its on your husbands head too because if he doesnt have protective jealous of you he is a Dayyooth and prohibited from junnah.
One who lacks ghayrah; one who does not care if (non mahram) men approach his wife, mother, sister or daughter. A dayyooth is prohibited from entering Paradise (Recorded by Ahmad)
"Three people will not enter paradise, and Allaah will not look to them on the Day of Judgement: the one who is disobedient to his parents, the woman who imitates men and the ad-Dayooth." (Ahmad)
Ibn al-Qayyim, rahimahullaah, said, "And the dayyooth (the man with no jealousy over the woman and his family) is the most vile of Allah's creation, and Junnah is forbidden for him, (because of his lack of Gharyah-jealousy). A man should be "jealous" with regard to his wife's honor and standing. He should defend her whenever she is slandered or spoken ill of behind her back. Actually, this is a right of every Muslim in general but a right of the spouse specifically. He should also be jealous in not allowing other men to look at his wife or speak with her in a manner which is not appropriate.
Some men deliberately allow and encourage their wives to dress up knowing full well other men will look at her. Perhaps because they're proud of their wife's beauty which in itself isn't a bad thing because it shows hes pleased with her because shes beautiful but that doesn't mean to say he should show her off because that is prohibited in Islam. Rather he should encourage her and also his female relatives such as his mum, sister, or daughter to cover up and dress in a way that is pleasing to Allaah and not for the rest of society.
“Men are the protectors and maintainers of women because of what Allah has preferred one with over the other and because of what they spend to support them from their wealth.” [Sûrah an-Nisâ’: 34]
Any men who might be reading this here are some things you can do for your wife so she will feel protected and maintained.
Subhan Allah! Look at the difference between how Islam values and protects women and how cheaply women are treated outside of Islam! As Muslims we have to be careful that our Hayaa' (sense of modesty and shame) and Gheerah doesn't wear out in a society in which people have lost their Hayaa' and Gheerah.
I know there are some sisters who wouldn't want to be treated this way because they might feel slightly oppressed or stuck in the dark ages... but I believe that's their own backward mentality or lack of understanding of Islam. They want to be an independent woman but just because you are cared for and protected doesn't mean you cant be independent or are completely dependent. The woman has her role and her responsibilities, the matters in which she is charged over... the same as the man. The man is incapable of giving what the woman possesses and the woman is incapable of giving what the man possesses. No matter how much either parties seek to emulate one another. Allaah's help is sought in our affairs.
Our noble men in this deen have forgotten that they are the maintainer and protectors of their women. I'm not just speaking only about husbands - but the fathers and the brothers also. We have issues with responsibility and commitment from the men and the women are left to the extremes of role reversal... women falling dangerously into sin - forced into becoming the providers and protectors of their households. Rasulullaah, sallallaahu alayhi wa salaam said: Allah curses the masculine women - Abu Dawood (classed sahih by Shaykh al-Albani) and curses the men who imitate women and the women imitate like men - Bukhari 5546. How will we indeed teach the next generation of men and women, our children, when we cannot follow correctly for ourselves. It is our responsibility, yaa muslimaat, as well. We certainly and adamantly, as women must remind our men of their responsibility and at the same time, we need to be reminded of our responsibility. First, of our obligations to Allaah, azza wa jal and then of our obligations to one another. Ya'Allaah protect us from the trials of this dunya. Ameen yaa Rabb.
Sisters, when your flouncing about feeling so free and happy and 'liberated' because your husbands allow you to leave the house or mix with non mahram men or put your pictures up on facebook looking dolled up with a glossy pout and seductive eyes and an improper hijab which you try to convince your self is 'fine' because its loose or that merely covering your hair with a scarf is sufficient then ask your self this......
Does your husband not have protective jealousy over you? Does he not mind showing you or letting you talk to his friends and non mehram relatives? Does he not mind you leaving your house without covering properly or having a face full of makeup? Does he not mind that thousands of other men can see your photos on social networking sites such as facebook and the like? If not then there is a huge problem with his imaan as the obligation of hijab isnt just on your head, its on your husbands head too because if he doesnt have protective jealous of you he is a Dayyooth and prohibited from junnah.
One who lacks ghayrah; one who does not care if (non mahram) men approach his wife, mother, sister or daughter. A dayyooth is prohibited from entering Paradise (Recorded by Ahmad)
"Three people will not enter paradise, and Allaah will not look to them on the Day of Judgement: the one who is disobedient to his parents, the woman who imitates men and the ad-Dayooth." (Ahmad)
Ibn al-Qayyim, rahimahullaah, said, "And the dayyooth (the man with no jealousy over the woman and his family) is the most vile of Allah's creation, and Junnah is forbidden for him, (because of his lack of Gharyah-jealousy). A man should be "jealous" with regard to his wife's honor and standing. He should defend her whenever she is slandered or spoken ill of behind her back. Actually, this is a right of every Muslim in general but a right of the spouse specifically. He should also be jealous in not allowing other men to look at his wife or speak with her in a manner which is not appropriate.
Some men deliberately allow and encourage their wives to dress up knowing full well other men will look at her. Perhaps because they're proud of their wife's beauty which in itself isn't a bad thing because it shows hes pleased with her because shes beautiful but that doesn't mean to say he should show her off because that is prohibited in Islam. Rather he should encourage her and also his female relatives such as his mum, sister, or daughter to cover up and dress in a way that is pleasing to Allaah and not for the rest of society.
“Men are the protectors and maintainers of women because of what Allah has preferred one with over the other and because of what they spend to support them from their wealth.” [Sûrah an-Nisâ’: 34]
Any men who might be reading this here are some things you can do for your wife so she will feel protected and maintained.
- -You do all the shopping rather then letting your wife do it. If you work, get the shopping in the mornings or on your way back from work or on your days off. If your not confident enough then go with your wife for the first few times so she can show you which shops she gets what from and you can take it from there.
- -When some one knocks on the door, you get it so she doesn't have to rush around trying to find her hijab and jilbab or have to talk to a man unnecessarily and don't leave the door wide open so that your wife is in full view. Answer the phone in case its a man, be authoritative.
- -Don't let her go out on her own when it gets dark because it's not modest for a woman to be out at night. If there's any errands she must run during that time then go with her and if you cant make sure she has a mahram with her so shes not on her own.
- -Be her chauffeur even if you don't drive. If she needs to go any where even during the daylight hours drop her off and pick her up.
- -Don't let her travel without a mehram, not only because it isn't allowed but also because she will feel like you care about her and want her to be safe.
- -When your out walking it is a sunnah for the man to walk on the outside and the woman to walk on the inside of the road. That way she is less visible to people driving past in their cars and if any men walk towards you, you can make sure he walks on the outside nearer the road so he doesn't brush past your wife.
- -Remind her that you think she is beautiful because she covers her beauty and that you would be jealous if any man looked at her or tried to speak to her. Remind her that you want to protect her from wandering eyes and thoughts and that you want her to always remain safe and that you want to take care of her because she is yours and no one else.
Subhan Allah! Look at the difference between how Islam values and protects women and how cheaply women are treated outside of Islam! As Muslims we have to be careful that our Hayaa' (sense of modesty and shame) and Gheerah doesn't wear out in a society in which people have lost their Hayaa' and Gheerah.
I know there are some sisters who wouldn't want to be treated this way because they might feel slightly oppressed or stuck in the dark ages... but I believe that's their own backward mentality or lack of understanding of Islam. They want to be an independent woman but just because you are cared for and protected doesn't mean you cant be independent or are completely dependent. The woman has her role and her responsibilities, the matters in which she is charged over... the same as the man. The man is incapable of giving what the woman possesses and the woman is incapable of giving what the man possesses. No matter how much either parties seek to emulate one another. Allaah's help is sought in our affairs.
Our noble men in this deen have forgotten that they are the maintainer and protectors of their women. I'm not just speaking only about husbands - but the fathers and the brothers also. We have issues with responsibility and commitment from the men and the women are left to the extremes of role reversal... women falling dangerously into sin - forced into becoming the providers and protectors of their households. Rasulullaah, sallallaahu alayhi wa salaam said: Allah curses the masculine women - Abu Dawood (classed sahih by Shaykh al-Albani) and curses the men who imitate women and the women imitate like men - Bukhari 5546. How will we indeed teach the next generation of men and women, our children, when we cannot follow correctly for ourselves. It is our responsibility, yaa muslimaat, as well. We certainly and adamantly, as women must remind our men of their responsibility and at the same time, we need to be reminded of our responsibility. First, of our obligations to Allaah, azza wa jal and then of our obligations to one another. Ya'Allaah protect us from the trials of this dunya. Ameen yaa Rabb.
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